How Young Is Too Young To Be Sexy

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I had Lightroom open to a full gallery of images taken in Puerto Rico of the most beautiful girl in the world, my cousin Camila. I started doing what I usually do: select several pictures at a time and flag the best one. Flag, flag, flag, flag. They’re all so great; Camila is such a beauty! 

There are some where her face takes up the entire screen and I can see the innocence in her eyes. Then there are other images where there’s a bit more of a serious tone, almost to the point of them being sexy. I think she looks absolutely stunning in them, but then I remember she’s only 16 years old. Taking a moment to think of my fleeting thought made me want to write this post, because I feel like there’s such a gray area nowadays on not only what is sexy but also what’s the age of sexy?

I think we should rephrase the question and instead of asking ourselves how young is too young to be sexy we should ask ourselves what do we want that “sexy” to be.

Sexiness has little to do with clothing and a lot to do with being. As Mila's [favorite] older cousin who runs a boudoir photography business, I’m constantly asking myself if the content I produce would be something I’d be ok sharing with her, because if it isn’t, then I know it’s not the right type of work that boosts my vision for women.

To me, sexy should be related to these words,

  • Confidence

  • Strength

  • Uniqueness

  • Femininity

  • Power

Rather than these ones,

  • Sex

  • Promiscuity

  • Desperation

  • Revealing

  • Easy

I want Mila and her friends to know that being sexy is a way of being and not a way of dressing. I want her to know that it’s OK to embrace your femininity, as long as it’s with respect and dignity to yourself. I’m the first one to wear the smallest bikinis or post pictures of myself in lingerie, but I do it all with because they’re 100 percent ME – they’re never for attention or approval.

On my last trip to Puerto Rico, we had about 10 minutes to shoot this series. They mean so much to me because I see her at the cusp of becoming a young lady, still with an almost-tangible purity that’s held in her copper eyes.

Through these pictures, this post and all my future work, I hope to always be an example for her of what being a sexy woman really is about.

Tag or share with someone who inspires you to be sexy.

With love,

Sara

Yoga For Everyone | Part I | Darling Magazine

// This post was co-written with Katherine Harris for Darling Magazine. This is the first part in a 3-part series. Subscribe for upcoming yoga goodies! //

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It's truly a blessing that I often get to combine my biggest passions - yoga and photography - and call it work. Yoga is a way to turn the lens around and take a look at what's going on inside, and no matter who you are or where you are in your practice, yoga is available.  

So when Darling Magazine wanted to offer its readers an accessible and short yoga flow that helped de-stress in a chaotic city like New York, we knew we were the gals for the job. When I say we, I'm referring to my best friend Katherine, from The Refined Woman. We're coming up on 4 years of knowing each other, but time has nothing to do with our love story. Kat and I come from very different backgrounds, but have somehow become women on a similar path - a path of self-awareness and constant dream chasing! 

When we’re in the same city, you'll often find us at any given park, with music & yoga pants on and breath moving up and down in unison. Regardless of the day's event, we come together and wipe our slates clean by one simple move: breathing.

I invite you to try this basic 15-minute yoga flow, prepared by Kat and myself, and experience what your body goes through. It's a perfect way to either start or end your day! 

I hope you give it a try and let us know what you think.

Namaste, loves.

With love always,

Sara

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Y O G A  F O R  E V E R Y O N E  B Y  T U T T I  +  K A T 

First, find child’s pose. Sit back on your heels, rest forehead on the ground. Relax your entire body, and start connecting with your breath.

Next, find a neutral spine on all fours. Begin moving with your breath. Inhale into cow pose, exhale to cat poseRepeat five times. (This simple movement warms up your spine, wrists and hips.)

From here, curl your toes under and press into downward facing dog. Make sure you press into your index finger and thumb to avoid dumping weight onto the outside of your wrist.

Cycle through five breaths in downward facing dog. Slowly walk to your hands. Bend knees as much as you need. Arrive into rag doll position. Hold onto opposite elbows, and if it feels good sway side to side.

Now, onto through Sun Salutations A + B.

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SUN SALUTATION A (3 times)

From rag doll, slowly roll all the way up, stacking one vertebrae over the next until you arrive and EXHALE in mountain pose.
INHALE, lift arms up, and gaze to your hands.
EXHALE, fold forward, release your neck.
INHALE, lift your torso halfway, gaze forward and widen your collarbone.
EXHALE, plant hands, step / hop back to chaturanga dandasana (if you can do a push up, you can do this!)
Bend elbows to 90 degrees and shift forward to upward facing dog as you INHALE.
EXHALE, downward facing dog.
Stay for five breaths.
Look forward, walk or jump to the top of your mat, INHALE, halfway lift.
EXHALE, fold forward.
INHALE, come to stand, raise your arms and look up.
EXHALE, mountain pose, arms by your side.

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SUN SALUTATION B* (3 times)

Make your way from downward facing dog to forward fold.

INHALE, chair pose, sit hips back and raise arms alongside your ears.
EXHALE, drop hands to the mat and straighten legs.
INHALE, halfway lift.
EXHALE, plant hands and step/jump back chaturanga dandasana.
INHALE, upward facing dog.
EXHALE, tuck toes, downward facing dog.
INHALE, raise right leg. Keep toes pointed toward the mat.
EXHALE, plant right foot in between hands, spin back heel down to 45 degrees (toes facing the top left corner of your mat).
INHALE, come to stand with arms alongside ears for warrior I (you’re doing it!).
EXHALE, plant hands to frame foot. Step back to plank, then lower halfway.
INHALE, upward facing dog
EXHALE, downward facing dog.

Repeat on left side.

Once you’ve completed the left side, breathe in downward facing dog.
Look forward, walk or jump to the top of your mat, INHALE, halfway lift.
EXHALE, fold forward.
INHALE, chair pose.
EXHALE, mountain pose.

Repeat complete cycle three times.

*Options for Sun Salutation B:

First Cycle: Add a lunge twist after warrior I, left hand down, pick up back heel, and twist toward raised right arm.

Second Cycle: Humble warrior I after warrior I, interlace hands behind back, bring torso inside bent leg and stretch shoulders. THEN release left hand down for lunge twist.

Third Cycle: Repeat above steps and add a side plank after lunge twist.

Finally, rest in child’s pose for five breaths.

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Come to all fours and neutral spine, INHALE, right arm up.

EXHALE, thread it under left arm. Rest on right shoulder. Stay for five breaths.
INHALE, press up to untwist and gaze up.
EXHALE, neutral spine.

Repeat on left side.

We’ll end with breath practice. Find a comfortable seat, close your eyes, and breathe.

INHALE for counts of four.
EXHALE for counts of seven.

Stay for three to five minutes, then slowly open your eyes, and smile.

Namaste, loves!

 

// C R E D I T S //

Photos Via: Sara Kerens

Yoga Bestie: Katherine Harris from The Refined Woman

Yoga T-Shirts: Spiritual Gangster

Yoga Mat: Jade Yoga

Time For Self-Care

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WHAT IS SELF-CARE?

I'll be honest with you: I don't have the answers. I only have experiences, reflections and lessons. Isn't that the way life works though? If we take a moment to step out of our own lives and allow ourselves to see the bigger picture, doesn't it all boil down to experiences and lessons?  

The main question I ask myself is, “How can I love myself well?” Self-care has become a coined term relating to practices that range from quietude to luxurious treatments, and although they’re all fair definitions for it, I want to include perhaps a new way for you to approach it.

It involves stepping outside our minds and entering our hearts. One of the most recent revelations I've had is that I want to be able to be as aware of my feelings and needs during times of joy as I am during times of stress. Self-care facilitates this transparency. It's the link between our hearts and our perspectives on life. That's where I think the gift of the precious present lies. The pot of gold. The edge of the rainbow.  

The ultimate lessons in self-care that I can pass on to you are this:

SELF-CARE IS FUN

Fantasy is a necessary ingredient in living. - Dr. Seuss

A life of leisure in my everyday life is what I strive for. These are some of my favorite spontaneous practices: middle-of-the-day DIY face scrubs and masks, extra essential oil drops on my skin to feel like a goddess, long walks through the plant store while listening to my favorite music, gym time, reading all kinds of books that enlighten and inspire me, signing up for that class I've been wanting to take, etc. Thinking of "normal" activities as luxurious ones or even switching the time of day I enjoy them adds an element of fun and playfulness to my self-care routines. In addition, taking a leisurely approach to my day immediately adds the illusion of time to my life, which makes me more prone to notice, acknowledge and perhaps even smile to the person next to me. This is one of the truest benefits from practicing self-care: when we care for our internal selves we're better able to externalize feelings of peace, compassion and love to the world around us.

SELF-CARE IS QUIET

Silence is the quickest avenue to our soul. In quietude, we face ourselves, our feelings, our lacks, our desires, our questions and our dreams. I find that each day is different when it comes to sitting quietly. Sometimes I'm in the zone for twenty minutes straight and other times it's a huge struggle to stay still for two minutes. It's always telling of what's underneath the surface of course. I've experienced enough of the bliss that happens when I push through the chatter and arrive to my inner peaceful place to know that it's worth pushing through. Bliss, my loves. BLISS. If you're willing, I encourage you to check out these apps. I use them either at home in the mornings, in bed at night, or sometimes while I’m nursing and Levi drifts to sleep. Make this experience your own and don't overthink it. In yoga, it's said that a still body will facilitate a still mind, but just remember that the goal isn't to quiet the mind completely, it's to slow it down enough for you to see what's there, without judgement. These are my favorite meditation apps:

  • Calm

  • Headspace

  • Mindfulness

  • Stop, Breathe & Think

They each have free + premium options. I usually just choose a free one and it does the trick! 

I hope you enjoy this approach to self-care. I'd love to hear about your journey as you incorporate some of these or maybe even come up with ones that your heart is yearning for! I find that taking a step back from our busy lives, listening to our hearts and honoring what it needs always brings a sacred perspective to our days and lives. 

Sending you all love,

Sara

To Empower: To Give (Someone) The Authority Or Power To Do Something.

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Photo featuring Malabella Jewels

Of all the buzz words I've been aware of, empower is my favorite. I can literally spend hours on Instagram, Facebook, blogs, etc. discovering and interacting with other women whose mission is to empower one another. 

A couple years ago, I attended Jessie Artigue's, creator of Style & Pepper, popular Pepper Brunch. The theme was all about building your dream career and guest speaker Cyndie Spiegel was there to disclose all the dirty secrets on how to do so. The moment she said her business goal was to "empower women, business owners and humans," I was all ears. "That's also my dream!" I thought. Then, something really strange happened. I reworded a question I often ask myself, "What do I want to do to empower women?" and instead asked, "What am I doing to empower women?" and was left a bit disillusioned, knowing I can do more. 

So, being the beginning of a new year and all, I think it's a perfect time to start doing instead of wanting to do. To that end, I’m writing this post and already have weeks of content to serve YOU: to bring you useful, fun, helpful, authentic and [hopefully] inspiring content. You can expect goodies about motherhood, womanhood, fitness, wellness, loving yourself, feeling sexy, creating community and simply cultivating kindness in your heart.

As this topic is dear to my heart, I yearn for your comments and feedback! Make sure to subscribe to stay in the loop. I’m so excited to build this loving community.

Love you all,

Sara

// C R E D I T S //

Style & Pepper, http://www.styleandpepperblog.com/
Cyndie Spiegel, http://www.cyndiespiegel.com/
Malabella Jewels (photo), https://www.malabellajewels.com/

2019 | My Wish For You

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There are many gifts I wish to give you - my community. I want you to feel loved. To feel safe. To feel valued and seen. I want you to know you are unique because you are you, and that there's absolutely nothing you have to change about yourself in order to be better or more fill-in-the-blank. Where you come from, what you do, who you choose to be, they all make up the beautiful person you've become and what others experience when they're around you. You are magic.

You are the entire ocean in one drop. 

My wish for you is of endless words of self-love that you tell yourself. That you may look at yourself in the mirror and speak kindly to yourself. Maybe even smile. I want you to feel both the lightness and heaviness within you,  which we all have,  and choose to move through both with love.

I'll leave you with an affirmation that I find truly beautiful and inspiring. May all your 2019 wishes come true and may you find joy in every moment. 

I surrender to the ocean, to the moon, to the stars, to the sun, to the earth. Bestowed by beauty all around me; I am humble. I respect life and promise to honor its gift. I will nourish my body and too my soul with the nutrients of love. I am present. - Miann Scanlan

With love always,

Sara