It seems we live in a list-overload type of world. Top antioxidant foods, ways to cut carbs, workout for the day, gift ideas, to-do’s, what to buy, where to go, etc. When it comes to the “big" questions, though, a list may fall short. For instance, list all the things you love. It doesn’t matter how many you name or what they are, but go ahead, do it.
As I was scrolling through a yoga teacher’s Instagram feed the other day, I stopped at a beautiful picture of her in an advanced pose, but the pose wasn’t what got my attention, it was the words beneath it. The caption read, “If I asked you to list all the things you love, how long would it take you to name yourself?"
I invite you to embrace the hebrew term that encourages a pause, a moment to let this sink in.
- Selāh -
How long is your list? Is there anything in there that celebrates YOU? Of all the lists you’ve written or will write in your life, this one should be handled with utmost care. Underneath the assignment of jotting down things you love lies an opportunity to recognize yourself as someone who’s worthy of love. I encourage a spirit of giving year-round but never at the expense of yourself. It’s so important to remember that giving, sharing and being are all external acts that stem from a single source - love - and the source of love is within.
The importance of dealing with this now is because it dictates how we act and behave on all facets of life: work, relationships, etc. In an interview, Cameron Diaz addressed the importance of finding the intention behind all actions in order to be clear about the desired outcome. She was specifically talking about fame and happiness, and how one does not guarantee the other, but that the only truth is that in order to be happy you have to feel happy, which is a completely personal and intimate matter. She states, “If you’re looking for fame to define you, then you will never be happy.” I’d like to tack on something else, “If you’re looking for someone else to define you, then you will never be happy.” The fact of the matter is that you’re the only source of love and happiness you need. Once you know that you are love because you are made of love, your days will be filled with small things that add greater joy to your life.
In the spirit of creating a list that will actually serve me, here is one I wrote this morning when thinking of things I love, and if you haven’t already, I encourage you to do the same!
1. Levi’s sleepy and smiley face in the morning.
2. The promise of coffee in the morning.
3. Having really smooth, shaved legs (#winning).
4. Making someone laugh.
5. Writing this article.
6. Looking at my strong hands as I do a handstand.
7. Scrolling through old pictures and seeing the people I love.
8. Staying connected to my community of friends.
9. Looking into Levi’s eyes as he nurses.
Merely writing that just now made me feel incredibly peaceful. So many times we get caught up with getting everything on our lists done that we, ironically, forget to list the most important things.
I often speak about the importance of gift-giving in it purest form - to oneself - because of the impact it can have on not only your life but that of the people around you. Today, I want to reiterate how important it is to feel worthy. The fact that you’re reading this piece means that you’re intrigued by the deeper side of things. You’re willing to explore the why’s and how’s of life. Even if this is your first time around here, having you here is no coincidence.
I want to let you know it’s okay to sometimes feel as if life has spun a bit out of control. You are not the only one who’s felt confused or uncertain about your own worthiness or purpose in life. But hear this: despite life’s surprises, twists and turns, you deserve a life of love… and an abundant one at that! True love, the type that brings bliss to your life and has the ability to bring light to the darkest of situations, is between you and you. No one else and nothing else. It’s such a mystery to sometimes feel it and sometimes wonder where it is, but I guarantee, if you become aware of this truth, accessing it each time you’ve lost it will become easier.
Our journey through life will surely be worthy of an award-winning list of events. Among the intricacies and different scenarios we will all go through, my wish for you is to find this on your long list of life truths:
I am love.
Fulfillment is within.
Love is within.
I am enough.
May you feel these deep in your bones.
With love always,